Just that word alone sounds cold and cruel. We’ve all had to deal with it at one time or another in our lives, whether it was for a job, a date, a loan or any of a million other things when someone else is answering our request.
Never once was that rejection fun. It can make you feel underappreciated, unaccepted and unwanted. Of course, we get over it, but it’s not a daily occurrence we have had to deal with – until now.
As publicists, we speak with scores of producers, editors, hosts and reporters every day offering them opportunities to interview our spokespeople about topics and stories we believe in. Unfortunately, not all of these people we pitch to are going to be as passionate about these stories as we are. The nature of our job is such that some of the people we talk to are not going pick up the story or interview we offer them. Some of the calls we put out are going to end in a ‘no.’ This, of course, means we have to learn to deal with rejection .
How do we do that? How can we take anything positive out of someone telling us no?
As a former baseball player, I like to compare the rejection we encounter every day with sport.
When it comes to results, baseball players are just like publicists. The best hitters in the world ‘fail’ more than they succeed. The historically recognized standard for a ‘great’ hitter is a .300 batting average, which means he ‘fails’ 7 times for every 3 times he succeeds.
The same is true with publicists – even the best of the best have days when they receive a considerably higher number of ‘no’ answers than ‘yes’ answers. And just like Kirby Puckett had games, stretches of games even, where he went hitless, publicists are going to have days where they don’t get any bookings.
It’s those stretches that I believe separate great baseball players (and great publicists) from merely good or average ones. Any ball player can thrive off the success of a hard-hit liner one-hopping the fence for a stand-up double, but how does he react when he hits a ball just as hard the next time – only the centerfielder races over to make a spectacular catch? Or, for the publicist, how does he react when a certain approach works brilliantly with one reporter, but that exact same approach fails miserably with another?
To me, it’s about putting everything into perspective and making the appropriate adjustments, in both baseball and in my job. As a ball player, I never allowed myself to get caught up in what my batting average or slugging percentage was – I was always more concerned about the productivity of my at-bat and whether or not I swung at good pitches, watched the bad ones go by, and made solid contact when I swung the bat. Obviously, my goal was to reach base by any means possible. However, for the sake of becoming as good a player as possible, I always focused on how my results came to be.
Was I ripping the stitches out of the ball consistently, working the pitch count, and putting the ball in play hard? If I was doing all those things and getting out because the other team was making good plays and balls were being hit right at guys, I didn’t worry about it – I knew if I continued to do all the right things, balls would start falling and my productivity as a hitter would take care of itself.
Or, was I swinging at terrible pitches, letting the pitcher off easy and hitting the balls off my knuckles? I could be doing all that and still finding my way on base through a little good fortune – but I would know that good fortune would not last forever, and eventually at-bats like that would start to negatively impact my productivity. It’s at those times, I would go back to the dugout, talk with my coaches about my at-bat, what I did wrong, and what I could do to correct it.
It’s no different as a publicist. When I’ve got a perfect pitch and I’m saying all the right things to a media contact, I know there are going to be times that person is still going to tell me no. Does that mean I did something wrong? Not necessarily – I may just need to keep after it until those bookings start coming and my productivity evens itself out.
The bottom line is, it’s all about attitude and perspective. If you have an optimistic attitude (I did well, the hit just didn’t fall for me), you put each event into its proper perspective and make the necessary adjustments, you’ll be able to fight through the slumps of the job and be a productive member of the team. If you have a pessimistic attitude (What more can I do to get a hit?) and take everything at face value, the pressure will continue to mount and you’ll bury yourself beneath the weight of your own expectations.